Category Archives: Diversity

Scheduling some maintenance

I agreed with a medical professional last year that I’d “become concerned” if I started sleeping less than four hours each night. I look at that as an average. Most of the time I sleep four to six hours and I’m able to go to sleep almost immediately whenever I want to do so thanks to Ram Dass and some much-needed reminders 29 years later provided by some guys who live together in Conyers, Ga. A commune, old style. Guy from Nursia put some rules in a book a long while back and these guys are from a splinter of the first splinter group. which broke 419 years  (note: not 420 – #signicience) before the laity got a similar idea and that’s  all most know about these days. Monks don’t get out much. Part and parcel of the whole cloister thing. Continue reading Scheduling some maintenance

More – the end of the Apple Saga

I called Apple tonight. The first person who I spoke with walked me through the same websites I’d been to numerous times over the past two months. I wasn’t taken to the page he thought I’d be. He kept repeating the same thing to me. Eventually, he passed me off, after a wait, to a woman named Eloise. Continue reading More – the end of the Apple Saga

Simplifying (Simple?)

Originally posted on Pulse

I noticed that while I’ve been otherwise occupied people continue to check on my page so I thought I’d share a tangent I started to follow an hour or two ago but stopped, negotiated, and finished the task I was on without the unrelated (except in my mind) embellishment. Continue reading Simplifying (Simple?)

Quora question – LinkedIn version

The following question was asked on Quora: “How can I make my mind associate certain things with others? (studying w/ fun, etc)?”

My response is similar to what I included below (the posts to my blog and quora were each a bit different than this one).

Let’s use studying/fun as an example and work through it.

Studying *is* fun.  Complete. Joking.

One way to make studying fun is to mix it with fun. My oldest son did that when he was in HS and his brother took it up afterwards.

Every Friday after football season they’d meet at a bookstore after school then study for two hours, play games for an hour, study for 90 minutes, play games for an hour … until closing time.  Afterwards, likely as not, some of them would spend the night at one of the children’s homes and have more fun.

We closed our time together sharing  a “good thing”, a reminder that all the work we were doing would bring more of in the future (and it has).

I did the same thing during two courses I took in graduate school, Systems Science I & II taught by my favorite professor of all time, RIP, Victor Lovass-Nagy. 

At the end of each night our study group  had a special treat (beverage, pastry or both) — Similar to, and perhaps inspired by, Dr. Lovass-Nagy starting each class with a classy “Ladies and Gentlemen” we closed our time together sharing  a “good thing”, a reminder that all the work we were doing would bring more of in the future (and it has).

Happiness – It’s all about you and what you want. It’s an emotional state that is at the same time an idea and a relative measure. That being written, each of us shares some common ground on what makes us happy.

Aristotle was big on friendship’s importance as a virtue that one should cultivate as we blaze the trail (while walking the path) to happiness. Let’s look at my answer again.

My son’s study group and mine had as part of their schedule, some fun times. Work and fun combined associated work with fun while helping to cultivate friendship. We were “living well” as Aristotle would have said. We were not just doing, we were compounding that which brings happiness.

three areas – immediate reward, relationship reward, (assumption of) recurring reward. 

We were cultivating friendship, experiencing new and pleasurable things – we were doing something useful for ourselves with immediate benefits and future benefits.  It was fun because we made it so – and we did so in three areas – immediate reward, relationship reward, (assumption of) recurring reward.

Extending coursework to our daily efforts. If it is required and you can, work with others and make sure you build in rewards, even rewards as simple as a break – to take a walk outside together. If you are delegating, do that well and you’ll strengthen the relationship(s) involved.

If work is optional, perhaps planning a weekend event at work, take part if you are able, help with the planning and embrace the event. Make it count – its your chance to show that you care.

Note about work social gatherings that some may need to read twice.

Don’t fake it – the fake won’t make it.

 

One can focus on the things that will push your career towards maximum power, salary, notoriety (LI connections, perhaps), etc. Its your choice. I believe it’s best to head the direction that you’ll enjoy and if that’s money, power etc, go for it. These are things that some people enjoy.

“management trajectory” seems to be the underlying foundation of career pathing at too many places still. 

Others have different interests and should follow different paths. Companies are catching on though “trajectory to management” seems to be the underlying foundation of career pathing at too many places still.  I’ll write about that separately.

We do the career thing for a very long time. While you can change it (I’m on my third … fourth), if you can take a step back and start it the right way f0r you – it’ll save time getting to where your comfort area is – why try to be what you aren’t beyond a certain point. Each of us unique – united we can One (or more).

Whatever we do, wherever we go, we can chose to strive for individual and team excellence, harmonious and affirming relationships, and all of this is tied to having fun. Don’t try to associate fun with work in some complicated manner, a series of training sessions, perhaps.

your team’s effectiveness (and your employee retention) will be tied to the workplace mood and where the buck starts things also flow downhill.

Rather, have fun with the things that you do and help others have fun with what they do if you are able to do so.

If you have built a new team and your chose people with skills close to those you ultimately need (a moving target), your teams effectiveness (and your employee retention) will be tied to the workplace mood and where the buck starts things also flow downhill.

Relationships are more than foundations, they occupy the roots, the trunk, the branches, the leaves of a companies being.

Advice to startup CEO’s who aren’t having fun: CEO, heal thyself – make a balloon toy. If you aren’t having fun, your team will know and they won’t glow.

The study examples illustrated relationship building and, for my son’s group, relationship maintenance – the group continued to work together throughout High School.  If I asked him today if he’s having fun, I’m certain he’d say yes. Even if one part of what he does is not-so-fun he’s been building relationships since he was in middle school.

Relationships are more than foundations, they occupy the roots, the trunk, the branches and the leaves of a companies being. They need to be fed and watered and fun does both. People will  have fun if they are no barriers to it in place.

You don’t need to put fun into the workplace – you just have to let it in.

– Bob Martin